this is just some of the things I've learned, when both of my parents have passed.
Have a living will. All this means is making sure people know what you want for 'end of life medical care.' My mom had a dnr(do not resuscitate)and in her final months of ovarian cancer, my dad could never bear to do what had to be done. I've left strict instructions with my husband, my son and my doctor what I want. I want a dnr. If I can't have a meaningful life, please, let me go.
Many different funeral options......I've always personally wanted to donate my body to a medical college. It would be my final way of giving back. Letting someone learn. I also want to be an organ donar, and it's stipulated on my license. Again, you need to have people you trust know this. they don't always look at your licence, and if you want to donate, preparations need to be made. these are just my random thoughts.
Cremation or burial.....the growing trend is cremation, it's cheaper. My mom couldn't do this.....it's when we learned there are two sets of prices. Always ask for the cheaper list, the ones for the poor people. They don't want you to know about that. Then just go to the bottom price.
Now I see there are more ways. If you're a vet, there are death benefits. In some states the have a burial allowance or public aid. hey, it never hurts to look into it. what I thought interesting is the Green burials.
A “green” burial often takes the environment into account and foregoes things like vaults, headstones, certain casket types, and embalming.
Now for service options. Actually, my mom wanted a memorial service and no calling hours. she even planned her music. it was supposed to be no casket(easier to get through)My dad put the casket there anyway....but he was, pardon the expression, a drama queen. She was talked into calling hours, in the end, because many want and need closure, and can't make a service. An open house type service is a viable option here. You can have a light luncheon, tell stories....funny or otherwise. there were many funny stories when my dad died.
Personally, I want nothing, no service, nothing....if anything I want a big party. I tried to do this with my dad, when he died. death is a celebration.......my sister gave me the weirdest look, and of course it didn't happen.